Last Monday the Episcopal News Service put out a notice that the Bishop of Massachusetts had solemnized the marriage of two female priests. It seemed like a sort of hallmark to me at the time so I made a note to note it here. You can read the story at the ENS site: http://www.episcopalchurch.org/80263_126369_ENG_HTM.htm. Of course, probably thousands or millions even were married last Monday, and even hundreds by bishops, so we have to pause for a moment to think about why this merits a news release. Our marriages are still rare enough to evoke interest from society. I suppose for us, glbt folks, each one is sort of a marker of progress made.
The next day I flew to Toronto for my annual winter break, a bit of retreat time for writing and sleeping late. As it happened, that afternoon some friends were married at City Hall, in the same place where my husband and I were married two years ago. I was delighted to attend, and it brought up lots of thoughts for me, not the least of which was the simple observation about how absolutely normal it is for same sex couples to be wed in that chapel, or at all, in Canada. Marriage equality is no longer new here, and it has assumed a certain role in society that makes all of the hoo-hah about it in the US seem totally silly.
Then again, there is also my suspicion that it is deliberate that the right to marry is being denied to us. I told my friends they would notice a difference, but that it would be subtle. Just one day you sort of notice that you feel married, you feel like family, because you are. Like ordination or baptism, marriage is a sacrament (even civil marriage), and the people involved experience something theologians call an ontological shift. That means your very being changes somehow. Two really do become one, and not just the mathematical sum of A plus B, but a new and different entity, a family. And we really need to stop letting people make any argument about denying us the right to marry other than an acknowledgment that it is discrimination to set aside a class of people and deny them the right to an essential part of life.
Jesus’ own baptism is the action that assumes hallmark status in this week’s scripture. It is a dramatic story. Jesus enters into the action in dialogue with John the Baptist by saying “let it be so” and “it is proper … to fulfill all righteousness.” It is just action, and it is necessary action, for the equilibrium of God’s creation that this sacramental action should take place. And when it does, the simple dunking in the river becomes the gateway to the ontological shift in which the very voice of God becomes perceptible, audible and visible at once as though somehow the dimensions of the very universe were shifted on their axes.
Interestingly enough, this scripture is paired with a reading from Acts that we usually hear at Easter, in which Peter gives a startling sermon that begins “I truly understand that God shows no partiality, but in every nation anyone who fears him and does what is right is acceptable to him.” For “nation” you could read “society” or “neighborhood” or “congregation” or “family.” The point is, God has given us the grace of unity with God and one another, and our challenge is always and only to “fulfill all righteousness” by “doing what is right.” It is God’s plan that creates us gay, and it is God’s plan that we should be married, so that by establishing our families the axes of the universe can shift to show everyone the glory that is God.
And you thought it was just about marriage!
*1st Sunday after the Epiphany (Isaiah 42:1-9, Psalm 29, Acts 10:34-43, Matthew 3:13-17)
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